I have been MIA for a little bit, but I figured I better step it back up and finish out the Four Aspects of True Love.
Mudita, translated as joy or happiness. This element of true love is one of the most important, and in some ways, it ties all four elements together. If there is no joy or happiness in love, then the love is not true. If your love upsets you or distresses you, then it is, in fact, not love to begin with, or the love has been lost. Love must be fulfilling and bring joy and happiness to those who feel it.
When we are in love and we experience joy from it, our love grows stronger, and this is a sign that the love is true. Once there is no joy or happiness in love, then there is no longer any love.
Develop this element. Take time to do the things that bring you joy, both together and as individuals. It is this development of joy in yourself that allows you to share your joywith your love. You should be able to find joy within yourselves, as well as with each other, to have love in its truest form.
If joy has been lost it can be found again. It takes going back to the first 2 aspects. Figuring out where the joy went.